Apart from Jesus, one of the features that differentiate Christians from Jews is our perception of marriage. After creating the world, God said that it’s not good for man to be alone.
And we see how much of an obligation marriage is for those in the Old Testament. Yet, in the New Testament, Jesus, our Lord, and the Apostle Paul, our primary teacher were both single. We see that the script has been changed. It’s okay not to marry.
In fact, Paul says he would even prefer if we took this approach. He writes in his first letter to the church at Corinth in chapter 7 verse 29, “What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not.” For Paul, marriage is still to be celebrated. He unpacks its significance like few writers in the Bible. But, what he’s getting at is that we ought to have a single man or single woman’s perspective.
Spend yourself on God. This doesn’t mean that you’re to stop serving your spouse, but whatever stage of life you’re in, God is your first love. He’s where your identity is; that must remain a constant.